29 February 2008

Suspicious Mind

Suspicious Mind
Thinking based on suspicion is only a small part in the skills of thinking. One day I paid a visit a friend of mine in his shop house. A shop house consists of a shop on the first storey and a dwelling place on the second storey. In Singapore, shop houses are being refurbished for their architectural uniqueness as part of keeping our past and most importantly to attract more tourists here.

As I was approaching his shop my friend was holding a camera and in the process of taking a picture. When I saw that he was about to take a picture of a pedestrian who himself was taking a picture of my friend’s shop, I became very curious of my friend’s behaviour. He was not taking the sunrise or the sunset. He was not taking a picture of a beautiful woman. He was neither taking my picture. But he is just aiming the camera directly at the man across his shop.

Upon enquiry, my friend told me that since he was running a profitable shop he thought the man across his shop who was taking a picture could be a thief planning to rob his shop. I asked my friend what made him to think in that manner. He said he based it on suspicion. My God! The man could have been a tourist taking some pictures of pre war houses and a probable customer to his shop.

In our every day life it is best to check our thinking process. Are we thinking correctly at this point in time? It is understood that the mind taps from the self organised pattern to process thinking. If you want to be an analytic thinker you need to learn the skills of thinking. If you are taking a serious decision you need to put the plus and minus of your decision. The greatest legendary of rock and roll Mr
Elvis Presley said in his song that ‘We can’t go on together with suspicious minds and we can’t build our dreams on suspicious minds’

Suspicious mind works excellent in policing. But if you use too much suspicion in daily living life becomes very miserable. The basis of suspicious thinking is greed. The objective of getting something and keeping it to oneself makes it difficult to let it go for others. If you have S100, 000 dollars in your bank it is OK to give $10,000 to the needy party. :)

We are too self-centred and self-indulgent. Suspicious mind blocks our networking with people. The quickest way not to indulge in suspicious thinking is by becoming an extrovert. Extroverts get gratification from outside the self. Read
here for more tips on extrovert.

Real happiness is acquired through selfless approach to people. If you take a little care for others it is possible that you can give something voluntarily. Try not to put your needs above others. This habit of self centred approach with people makes relationship sloppy when your needs are thought to be pushed down the line.

Have you called someone in his or her hand phone and the recipient just cuts off the line? I have many experiences like that. Though it is a terrible way of showing that the other party is busy, it is the suspicious mind that keeps on dwelling on the darker side of life.